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@mifa is the first person to give me a name in association with my son. Papa Sharif! And it's one of favourite names now. Much love, Mifa Adejumo

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Really lovely article. It's a hard balance to find, between what you want and what others want from you. Neither extreme is satisfying, but the worst position might be languishing somewhere in the middle. I think Thoreau had this unsatisfying middle position in mind when he wrote, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

Anyway, thanks for sharing and be sure to correct "You're raised a wonderful boy" to "You've."

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I love this quote!

Thank you so much for the comment. I'm glad you're here.

And thank you so much for pointing out the typo. I'm making AI look good, it is always free of typos. 😁

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Yes but as of now it doesn't have any stories to tell, as you do.

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True!

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Articulate as always and it is brave of you to share with us your journey as you strive for balance. It is interesting how burdens can be placed on us even when we should be enjoying life. I am glad that you are writing again.

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Brilliant piece Sir!... Quite insightful, I'm not a father yet but it's remarkable how I can relate to a good degree of understanding the concerns living for oneself and living for, and through others.

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Thank you so much for reading.

And I'm glad you could relate to the piece. I do hope we find balance to strive with ourselves as whole.

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This is such a beautiful piece. I knew from the moment IB became a father that we'd be getting a lot more poignant fatherly wisdom and I am glad not to be wrong. I enjoyed reading this and I can totally (to some degree) relate to the worries of the writer. Well done, IB.

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Thank you so much for reading, fam.

I'm so glad you find it relatable. It's comforting to see that my struggle is an human experience not an outlier.

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